Sunday, February 14, 2010
Thoughts on Valentines, Love, and Marriage
"I try to let go of the old habits and prejudices I have about love in order to make room for the mystery. I don't have any control over what will happen. I'd like to know where this (relationship) is going because I don't want to get hurt again, but I don't have any control over that either. I have to accept that I don't know where this leads - I have to be bold about it and move toward happiness and trust that everything will work out the way it is supposed to."
"Oh, now you have to sacrifice for me -"
"What do you think a relationship is, Valentina?"
"Evidently, I have no idea!"
"Finally the truth! You've treated me poorly. Maybe you expected me to take it, but I've had far too good a life to spend what's left of it waiting around for you to grow up."
"I know exactly what will happen to me if I stay on course, if I choose never to trust anyone. I'll wind up all alone in assisted living wearing a muumuu and bunion pads, nursing a highball with nothing but my bitter thoughts to keep me company."
"Trust means I can be secure in the knowledge that no harm will come to my heart. Trust means we will figure out a life plan that includes his dreams and mine. Trust means I have someone who loves me and is on my side even when I fail, come up short, or do something rash."
How about you? How would you define love? Are you married? If not, do you want to be? What are your ideas about trust, sacrifice, and committment? Please leave a comment and let me know.
Happy Valentine's Day and may you find love (and commitment) wherever you are!